Do you ever wonder what someone sees when they look at you? I do. I wonder that all the time.
Let me tell you what I see when I look around at the people in my life (which if you are reading this, includes you)… I see dedication, I see passion, I see confidence, I see beauty, I see love, I see strength, I see laughter, I see hope. I see different things in everyone, each person in my life brings something into my life that they may never know about. You leave an impression on everyone you meet, once or one hundred times. We constantly think about how we see ourselves, and for me I know about 98% of the time when I look at myself it’s not anything good that I see. Seriously, how come if a guy were to walk up to me and tell me that I was dumb and ugly I would think about punching him, but when I say that to myself, it becomes the most valid opinion in the world. I don’t know, but it’s messed up. We see ourselves so differently than the people around us do. We listen to all of those doubts and fears, we start to believe them, I believed my own lies for years.
I wish the people around me would see themselves the way that I see them, but how will they know if I don’t tell them? They won’t. Every single day I am lucky enough to meet many different people in my job, and recently I have tried to find something to compliment every single person about, even if I know my interaction with them is going to be very short, and it has been amazing to see people light up with joy. When you interact with someone, no one expects you to say anything nice to them and that is so sad. Everyone expects you to just go through the motions and if you venture off track they don’t know what to do. Seriously, most of the time if I tell someone I love their shoes, hair color, or whatever, they stare at me a solid two seconds before responding and sometimes they assume I want something from them.
What I want is for that to be normal, I want to be able to see someone walking by and it not be weird for me to compliment them. I want positivity to be the new normal. I want to start loving people abundantly and hopelessly. I never want anyone I meet to ever feel like they don’t have the most unique and beautiful soul.
Every single person around me has something different about them, we aren’t the same people, and that is more than okay. But we ( I know I have) spent more time than we should trying to be someone else, someone who we think is prettier, or smarter, or cooler than us. We are always trying to fit in, find love, and find validation. So many people are willing to change themselves to find those things. I changed myself for someone and lost myself along the way. I don’t want anyone to make the mistake that I did. I don’t want anyone to ever feel like they need to be someone they are not.
If no one has told you today, you are so unique, you are so talented, I mean seriously there is no one who is like you. You bring so much to everyone in your life, and please never doubt that. The world and your friends and family need you, and they love you. You are so loved. You are so beautiful. You are so absolutely incredible, and you should never feel less than that.
If you feel like less than that, I want you to write a sticky note right now to yourself that says “ I am enough. I am loved. I am unique. I am the best”. Read that every single morning. I seriously have a wall of quotes that I read every single day. I know that I am someone who struggles with confidence and loving myself, but if I can’t love myself, then I can’t love others. And there are so many others who deserved to be loved, and I deserve to love myself.
I want you to love yourself, and yes I am preaching to the choir here because if anyone needs to work on self-doubt or confidence, it’s probably me. I’ve shut out people for too long because I hated myself, and didn’t want to let anyone else in. I spent a long time being angry at the world, and angry at myself, and it stopped me from being able to truly love anyone. When you let yourself fill up with anger and hate and fear and sadness, it doesn’t leave a lot of room for love, friendship, confidence, and hope. So here is to the rest of 2018 where I continue to learn to love myself, and to continue to learn how to make others feel loved as well.
PS~ I hope everyone has at least one friend who will tell you what they see in you, because I know that pictured above is one of mine. He will always be there to pick me up if I am down. When you find a loving and encouraging person, keep them around. I’ve adopted this one into my family.